aaarrrggggghhhhhhh!

so so sooooooo need to vent!!

so, you know how any Indian girl of a certain age is not left alone and has to go through the 'great arranged marriage circus', right?

well, so has been the case with me for a while now....and of late, I decided to take a more serious interest in the whole business, and see if I can find someone I liked enough....

now, the mother decided that this 2nd generation firang Indian, apparently born and brought up in UK, was the right match, and that I should talk to him.....

being the dutiful daughter that I am, I obliged!

he seemed to earn well, look good, and the assumption was that an Indian male, born and brought up abroad, would be more liberal minded and less controlling etc than the average indian male

well, hence proven tht u can take the Indian out of India, but you cant take India out of the Indian.....

So after a couple of weeks of trying hard to decipher his very un-British and in fact, very South European accent (and getting a clear of course not! and no further explanation when I ask him about it!), getting random calls at the workplace in the middle of the day (after having specified that I am not available before 8 in the evenings), getting no response to my mails and calls, and getting directed to his matrimonial profile when asking him even a slightly specific question (what is ur engineering specialty- your profile says non-IT only; check my profile), getting vague, there-there answers to important questions (why do you want an Indian wife, you've never even been to India; my parents are Indian) and generally getting a frustrating roundabout with a seems-like-a-schizophrenic....I decide to end things, very politely and properly....

and i get a whole backlash of the 'hell hath no venom....' variety!!

sheesh!!

his ego beats the hell out of that of the average Indian male.

I get labelled 'career minded' and having the 'wrong priorities' and doing 'time pass' and a whole lot of crap about not using matrimonial sites blah blah blah.....

i would have smashed his brains out with my career minded laptop if he had been around.....no wonder he has to look to India for a bride....with such retro thinking, he must feel that only the Indian women of lore would be the right match!.....